I know that this is kind of quant-physics, but I will try to make it as easy and understandeble as possible. Here we go::: Say that there is a situation where 2 people meet for the first time,, ok! The normal thing is that we build an opinion about the person we meet through what we heard other people say, what the person tells us and what we sens in our guts. We seam to have kind of time-rules when it comes to all the "bad things" we get to know that someone did in the past. So if what ever the person did in the past, happened 10 years ago, than it's often a bit easier to cope with and "forgive" and believe in a change. But if we know that something "bad" happened just a couple of weeks ago, than we seam to have a very different approach to the situation, a negative one. So, if we for example talk about sex: why do we have to follow old traditional rules about who have been with who, when and how -things? What is the difference?: To have been fucking around 10 years ago or if we made love to someone the other night? Can we actually know who we gonna f... tomorrow or next month (even if were in a relation)??? I'm sure we cant know anything about the future! I have a strange feeling that time is a big obsticle in our possibility to feel free and happy, just one of all the traps we're stucked in on this planet. So if we try to get rid of the time-trap, what can than happen, what's better than before??? There's no easy answer on this one, but I will try to give you MY point of view on this. If there's no time-rules, than we could put all our life-experiences in one big box, and it doesn't matter anymore if it happened yesterday or 20 years ago. But I believe that what really matters here is what you learned from those experiences and that you take responsibility, forgive, and that you understand that the personality/identity you have today exist partly becourse of what happened.
Confusing?? Thats just my first name,, haha!
All this rules we grew into in our life, made us to slaves.. Slaves for things we didn't really analyze and questioned! That we have to feel bad/dirty if we have sex or feelings for more than one person in a short period of time.. So silly... Ok, we need some kind of limits to know our own moral and ethics, but how many people really try to find their inner, personal opinions about this? Mostly we just use what we grew up with. Maybe here's a possibility to develop something bigger, bigger than we ever could believe?!
Maybe we can judge each other a bit less than?!
Love
Dani